
Welcoming a second baby while still caring for a toddler may feel like going on an adventure with no map. From double diaper duty to trying to get both kids to nap at the same time, this stage comes with plenty of surprises — some heartwarming, others a bit challenging.
While the road ahead can feel bumpy, having a game plan can make all the difference. Here's how to make this busy time a little smoother for you and your family, whether you’re a new mom or expecting again soon.
1. Embrace the Chaos
First, you must accept that things are changing and your life might be chaotic. The right mindset will help you appreciate even the tough days.
Understand that it's OK if your laundry sits in the basket for a day after it’s done or if the house isn't spotless 24/7. Be realistic about what you can accomplish in a day. Your primary focus should be on meeting the basic needs of your children and yourself. Everything else is a bonus.

2. Establish a Routine Early On
While it may seem impossible at first, creating a routine will make life more manageable. This doesn't mean strict schedules but rather a general flow that works for your family. Having some structure can help you feel more in control.
What’s more, children thrive on routine and consistency, as it helps develop self-regulation — a skill that will be useful in future social interactions. So, try to synchronize naps, feeding and playtimes.
Remember, with two babies, things won’t always go according to plan and that’s OK.

3. Divide and Conquer With Your Partner
If you have a partner, keep the lines of communication open. Share your feelings, frustrations and joys. Work together to find solutions to challenges and support each other through this intense period.
This sharing includes dividing responsibilities with your partner, which can lighten the load. Take turns giving baths or waking up for night feedings. Working together helps build a stronger bond with your significant other and ensures both children’s needs are met.

4. Plan Simple Activities for the Little Ones
Young children should get at least an hour of unstructured physical activity daily for healthy growth and development. This doesn't have to be all at once — it can be spread throughout the day.
While it’s easier to engage the infant, keeping your older one entertained is the pickle. Fortunately, toddlers love to play and will enjoy age-appropriate activities they can do on their own, like coloring, playing with soft toys or sorting objects. The best thing is that while they engage in these activities, you'll have some freedom to focus on the baby.
Going for walks or having dance parties in the living room can be great ways to get moving together.

5. Make Time for Self-Care
With two little ones demanding your constant attention, it's easy to neglect your own needs. While it’s normal to feel exhausted, anxious or overwhelmed, checking in with yourself regularly can help prevent and manage postpartum depression.
Try to squeeze in short moments for yourself, whether it's a quick shower, a few minutes of yoga or enjoying a cup of tea while the babies nap. You can also practice mindfulness, journaling or taking a few deep breaths throughout the day. Prioritizing your mental and emotional health helps you stay patient and energized to care for your children.
Don't hesitate to reach out for support. Whether it's family, friends, a postpartum doula or a babysitter, having extra hands can be a lifesaver. Let others help with household chores, cooking or watching the children so you can rest, take a spa day or attend local parenting groups.
Celebrate the Journey
Raising two under two is no small feat. While it may feel overwhelming at times, it's also filled with precious moments you'll cherish for years. Just remember, this intense period won't last forever. So, take it one day at a time, be gentle with yourself and know you're doing your best for your little ones.
ABOUT OUR CONTRIBUTOR:
Mia Barnes is a professional freelance writer and the Editor-in-Chief of Body+Mind. She has over 5+ years of experience researching and writing about family health and postpartum wellness. When she isn't writing, you can find Mia walking her dog or trying new recipes.
