The Pros and Cons of Finding Out the Sex of Your Unborn Baby
Whether or not to find out the gender of your unborn baby is one of the first significant decisions you will need to make during your pregnancy. You might be keen to know, or you might decide you want to be surprised. Here are some of the pros and cons of knowing whether your unborn baby is a boy or girl before the birth.
The pros:
- You get to know your baby beforehand as ‘he’ or ‘she’.
- It allows you time to get mentally prepared for whether you’re having a boy or girl.
- You can decorate the nursery in the theme you want for either gender.
- If you are into colours for boys and girls, you can buy the appropriate clothing beforehand.
- You can choose a definite name before the birth.
- You can let your other children know if they are going to have a brother or a sister – which can help them to prepare and even bond with the baby a little before the birth.
- If your heart is set on one gender or the other, knowing beforehand helps avoid disappointment when the time comes.
The cons:
- Some parents don’t want to ‘spoil the surprise’ when the time comes. If you prefer surprises, you’d be better not to ask about the gender at your ultrasounds.
- Your relatives don’t want to know and you don’t want it to accidentally slip from your mouth in conversation.
- Finding out the gender is not completely reliable and the sonographer could make a mistake.
- You really don’t care what gender your baby is, as you are prepared for either one.

Knowing the gender of your bub is a very individual decision. There is no right or wrong answer in this. If you are curious and want to know, don’t feel bad about asking, even if other people are urging you not to, and vice versa. It really is your own decision. If you’ve already made this decision, we’d love to know what you chose, and why!